THE PUBLIC RAPE EXPERIMENT
"A loyal TUBIAN in 2013 opened up to me and told me her story and kindly asked me to do a video raising awareness on the issue. This project was made with the best intentions and pure heart. I know it will mean something different to us all and am happy to have opened up a well needed conversation. […] I have been given a responsibility with this YouTube platform of mine and always told myself to stay true and progress towards change."
In some ways, the term “pansexual” came out of biphobia and a need to stipulate that one was not transphobic. If you take the binary view of “bisexual,” then a sexuality specific to an attraction to men and women could be seen as being noninclusive of transgender men and women. On the other hand, transgender men and women want to (and should) be seen as simply men and women, meaning that they would/should be included in that very binary; not including them tends to be much more phobic and noninclusive.
Then there is the thought that the binary view of bisexuality can be seen as phobic of anyone who identifies as genderqueer, or somewhere along the gender and sexuality spectrum, not identifying as male or female, man or woman. But, as I mentioned before, the true definition of “bisexual” is being attracted to those who are the same as me and those who are different from me, encompassing all genders and identities. The often-repeated argument that “bi means two” ignores a simple fact: “Same” and “different” are, indeed, two groups.
Tell me these movies are just dumb comedies. Tell me Po is just a stupid Panda. Tell me. I will fight you.
Kung Fu Panda is about a character with legitimate low self esteem issues who is mocked and ridiculed by the people he looks up to. No matter how hard he trains, he doesn’t believe in himself until he discoverers that there is no “secret ingredient” that will make him great, because HE is what makes himself great.
Po: There is no secret ingredient. It’s just you.
Oh my everlasting Primus, THIS.
This scene right here hit me like a punch to the gut. I thought I was gonna start crying in the theater, because that was ME up there. Someone, whoever wrote those lines, understood what it felt like. To go through life fat and clumsy, a walking punchline. To not know what pretty or strong or popular or good at something even feels like, and what other conclusion can you come to but that you are worthless?
Until… Shifu gets his head out of his ass, turns his thinking around, and starts training Po in ways that are useful to Po. Until Po finally gets the chance to apply the passion he’s always had and the kung-fu-nerdery he’s been amassing since he was little. Until Po becomes a master in his own time, in his own way, and saves the world without having to lose a single ounce to do it.
That was the second punch to the gut for me. Po doesn’t slim down and become buff. He still gets out of breath climbing stairs. He’s a giant awkward nerdapalooza and he’s pretty much always hungry. He’s still the same fat kid he always was, and the change, the miracle, is that that’s okay. He doesn’t have to not be a fat kid in order to be worthy.
I don’t know why Kung Fu Panda doesn’t get more love than it does. It should be our banner, y’all.
Kung Fu Panda was one of the first movies I EVER saw where the main character was fat and clumsy and awkward, basically a giant dork, but those things weren’t changed or gotten rid of during his hero quest. No one took him seriously because of them—not even himself—but it turns out that all the things about himself he was always embarrassed about did more to make him a hero and an essentially good person than training with the most skilled practitioners of martial arts in the country ever did. Normally, the fat or awkward or dorky protagonists turn out completely different by the end, at least in appearances if not personality.
When KFP came out I was still very insecure about my weight and my personality. I’ve been chubby, awkward and nerdy since my childhood, and I’d tried everything to fit in with other people—from karate classes and straightening my hair to desperately vying for popularity. But from the start of this movie, I LOVED Po, and I identified more with him than I have with any other character. And watching this scene, and all the other scenes afterwards, watching Po and everyone around him realize that he was strong and brave and good exactly the way he was, I realized the same about myself. That’s an important lesson for EVERYONE, regardless of age.
The evolution of girl gamers
Boy gamers are so self-centered they act as though women haven’t been playing video games for decades, and then act horrified when the female gamers who have always been there actually become visible and vocal about the rampant misogyny that has infected the gaming world.
Like seriously, how entitled do you have to be that women saying “it sure would be nice if I wasn’t treated like shit while enjoying the games I play” translates to “I must be catered to” when video games have LITERALLY been catered to men for decades?
- 1993 - 64% of girls reported playing video games
- 1996 - "home use had increased for fourth grade girls"
- 1998 - "both male and female adolescents play video games on a regular basis."
- 1999 - "88% of the female college students … surveyed were video game players."
- 2007 - 20-47% of adolescent girls play video games
- 2008 - "94% of girls play video games"
- 2010 - "Forty percent of all game players are women."
- 2012 - "Women 18 or older represent a significantly greater portion of the game-playing population (30%) than boys age 17 or younger"
- 2013 -"adult women are nearly half of all video game players"
I didn’t get all the dates, but I think you can get the point.
Also considered posting my own personal gaming history, but I would’ve had to go back to the 80s for that. e_e
Been playing since I was old enough to hold the NES controller.
This chart does display some useful information, it accurately tells us how old the creator of the chart is. I’m guessing 24-25, which is way too old for this shit but explains why they seem to think girls only started playing games after he got out of high school.
Tumblr user catbountry makes an interesting observation.
Another useful observation? It was during the early 90’s that video games were becoming more aggressively marketed to boys.
So by 1995 the message that video games were for boys had taken root enough that you started seeing kids on the playground expressing befuddlement that girls could even play them.
So this chart tells us that this poor sap allowed himself to be so molded by advertisers that when the same girls he grew up with got old enough to be like “yo this is fucked up,” he cites his own experiences as evidence that they never liked them, despite the fact that those experiences were molded by advertisers chasing his demographic.
"You are wrong because as long as I can remember the vidya was marketed to me and now I’m noticing that you’re not happy about that."
You’ve been had, buddy. You’ve been played for a sap and you don’t even know it.
#I love a lot of things about the way this show turned out but maybe the very best one is how joan is a watson with limits #I don’t think I’ve ever seen an adaptation where watson doesn’t sigh in exasperation and then put up with the abuse #from day zero she’s laying down rules #and she’s patient and forgiving and remarkably low-key #(anyone who wakes me up before my alarm clock on the regular is getting a knife to the face) #but she absolutely knows the difference between eccentricity and unreasonable behavior #and is utterly able and willing to enforce boundaries #and to call holmes out #repeatedly. #now that I think of it I don’t particularly find watson interesting or likeable in… any adaptation I’ve seen? #and suddenly you have a holmes/watson dynamic that’s actually played as equal #where 2/3rds of their interaction is negotiation #(the other 1/3rd is mutual appreciation society and it’s so much better because of the negotiations) #real friends don’t just love you #they also challenge you to become a better version of yourself #that’s the show. (via smokeandsong)
The way Joan enforces limits is, for me, one of my favorite parts of her characterization.
more people need to know about this.
This is incredible. Give the anti-weed propaganda a rest. Let’s stop condemning a plant that literally saves lives.
I saw this a few days ago.I find it crazy intresting.
This is indeed intriguing…
These happy frolicking cows are the best thing I’ve seen today! [video]
I couldn’t help it! It makes me too happy.
Need a smile? cause that made me smile!
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One of the best cosplayers in the game
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The national geographic one gets me all the time.
I don’t understand what’s going on in the third one.
Really, guys? I’m back for ten minutes and we’re already fighting space aliens?
Steve just spends this entire movie unimpressed with EVERYTHING
#as much as I love steve being impressed like vaccinations! #smallpox is gone! #washing machines! #the future is wonderful! #I also want him to kinda be like #oh so it doesn’t fold the clothes for you? #I still gotta iron this myself? #Howard promised flying cars 70 years ago #Where’re the robots #unimpressed by the future tbh (via kehinki)
There’s some weird details on that, a few people have given different transcripts from different recordings
that it was either as NATWP put it, that Derek was 18, or that Derek wasn’t a minor everywhere else.
I haven’t heard any of the recordings, but the math works out that Derek was 16, and that wouldn’t make him a minor in most states, but California being very conservative.
It’s going to be a huge point of contention and right now I’m sticking with the math, most tv treats the age of consent as 16 (where it is in most of the us) but Paige died in 2004 and the house fire was in 2005. We know Derek was 15 in 2004, so he had his 16th bday in 2004 - so it wasn’t statutory rape in most of the US -
there’s a very good timeline here
remember “at least in California” can be just as easily be “well just in California”
I have always thought Paige was 10 years ago, with the fire 6-7 years ago.
at most the whole thing took place over a year but could have been as little as two months
Nope, Visionary took place 10+ years ago.
In 3x08, Peter states to Stiles & Cora in the present day (2011): “A 15 year old boy against a giant.” So Derek was, yes, 15 during Visionary.
In 3x10, Jennifer reveals to Derek that Kali leaving her for dead was only a few months after Paige’s death: “But a few months earlier, something happened that caused that ember to glow a little brighaater.”
In 3x09, the Sheriff goes to Melissa, asking about the files on a Jane Doe that is later in the episode revealed to have been Jennifer/Julia—from over 10 years ago: “The records would be over ten years old.”
3x08: Visionary that means took place in at least 2001, 10 years before the start of the series, and 4 years before the Hale fire (which would also mean that Derek is at least currently 25 and was 19 when he met Kate)
Guys, Jeff said that Derek WAS a minor. A lot of people just misheard him (since he wasn’t really speaking into the mic when he said this)
Nope. He said Derek was not a minor (aka Derek was 18 or older)
Hopping into this topic bc what the fuck ever
People who were at the con and sitting very near Jeff during this part have said he definitely said “I would certainly suggest that he was a minor, at least in California.”
Now, to counteract the above tweets from NATWP using pure logic:
California has the highest age of consent in the country at 18. Where I’m from it’s lower, but in California, it is the highest it can be in the United States (and tbh likely the world? idk most of the places I know of are 16 or less, but I could be wrong).
For Jeff to add the part about “at least in California” would make absolutely no sense if he was saying he wasn’t a minor - because um, it’s the highest in California, if he’s not a minor there, he’s not a minor anywhere?
However it would make total sense for him to add that if he’s saying Derek was a minor because he could’ve been a minor in California, but not in other places (say, Michigan, where the age of consent is 16).
Now, let me just add for funsies: I give zero fucks about age of consent laws over 16 because where I grew up it’s 16 and it’s ludicrous to me for the law to tell someone 16 or over they can’t have sex with whoever the fuck they want. So whether Derek was 16 or 18 doesn’t matter in terms of that for me.
What matters to me is consistency and the fact that all signs in canon point to Derek having been mentally/emotionally very young when the trauma of Kate/the fire happened. Derek shouting at Scott about not knowing what love is at 16. Derek exhibiting clear signs of childhood trauma and deep-seated, ingrained trust issues - anyone even skimming a child psychology book can get that much.
In terms of Sterek - because people have already inevitably made this argument all about Sterek - I give zero fucks about the law in California. Stiles is over 16 and to me is 100% capable of being able to consent to sex, just as Derek would have been. In terms of Sterek, my investment in their relationship has about 10% to do with a sexual relationship, so people trying to bash Sterek using age differences bc of sexual consent laws are only making themselves look like fools. In terms of Sterek, I give negative fucks about age difference - most of my family’s relationships have huge age gaps that started from ages as young as 15. My experiences give me a very unique view on things, but that doesn’t make my view any less valid.
What I don’t understand is why everyone jumps to the conclusion that Stiles and Derek has to start with a sexual relationship. Is it impossible to think that maybe, just MAYBE they decide to wait until they are both ready for physical intimacy? However long that takes, given Derek’s deep seated issues.
It’s not illegal for them to be in a relationship or date. It would only be illegal for them to have sex, even then it would only be illegal for one year, and then they’d be free to fuck as soon as Stiles is 18 (or they could even just hop over the border into another state where age of consent is lower and do it there). Sterek could happen right now and there would be absolutely nothing wrong/illegal about it.
Because a relationship does not automatically = sex.
I’m sorry (not really) but that argument means literally nothing when it comes to Sterek. There is nothing wrong with Sterek’s romantic relationship starting before Stiles turns 18.
actually it all depends on whether or not the sheriff decides to prosecute, even though it’s technically illegal it’s not something that the police actively enforce unless the parents press charges
but taking him across the border is trafficking a minor or the purposes of sex and that’s a federal crime - that one is a biggie - so that wouldn’t be on at all.
so even if they did decide not to wait if the sheriff didn’t have a problem with it it wouldn’t be a problem, this is one of the big arguments that the anti-sterekers like to use a lot - so the arguments for are pretty well known by most of the fans.
And at worst Derek would be put on a sex offender’s register for a few years.
Oh boy. I come back from work to find I’ve created a mess. Jeff has said (as noted in Cole’s meta) that the drivers license was a fake (it could be part of aging him up specifically so he wouldn’t be a minor or it could be the usual props dept. mishaps with dates etc). Peter states the stuff with Paige happened when Derek was 15, roughly 10 years ago. That puts this around 2001 (seasons 1 - 3 all happen in 2011) and Derek should be around 25 now. Stiles saying the fire happened “like ten years ago” was clearly a very rough estimate and he didn’t know the date off the top of his head. It was later clarified that the fire happened roughly six years previous to 2011 (as far as I am aware, we do not know the exact month it happened) which should put Derek at 18 - 19. Just barely at/over the legal age.
In addition to Cole’s meta, you can also refer to the timeline put together at teenwolfwiki.com/Timeline
Granted this is all very rough and approximate until we get some concrete answers, but it should serve as a semi-informed guess based on the clues and reference points we do have.
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